The Giver

I’m a giver. I don’t say this to brag. It’s just who I am. I would much rather serve others than be served. It makes me extremely uncomfortable to let people do things for me. I know I drive people crazy and probably make them feel uncomfortable because I just cannot let go and let them help me. It’s a fault of mine and I own it.

You know what’s hard? Being a giver. It can be exhausting and extremely lonely. You do things for others without expectation of anything in return. But, when the love isn’t returned, it stings. You are stuck between knowing you don’t do this to receive accolades, while, at the same time, feel undervalued.

“But be sure to fear the LORD and serve him faithfully with all your heart; consider what great things he has done for you.” 1 Samuel 12:24

Here’s what I am learning as a giver: Jesus made me this way. He created me to have a desire to serve others. If he made me this way, then I must trust that He knows how to fill my tank. When I am running on empty feeling tired and alone, when I am waiting for that thank you note or for someone to notice when I am struggling, I need to shift my gaze. I am looking for fulfillment in the wrong place. I am looking to people instead of the One who fills.

If I am not careful, my desire to be recognized by others for the things I do can overwhelm me. My vision will be skewed and my attitude will shift from giving to resentment. My longing for recognition will stunt my service.

“But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded.” 2 Chronicles 15:7

Thank yous, accolades, and recognition should have no bearing on my service. A servant’s stance starts in the heart not the exterior. If you are more Martha and less Mary, don’t fret. God made you this way on purpose and by design. Use your gifts of service to bless others without longing for people to bring you your reward.

Being a giver is an honor. Does it get tiring? Yes. Can it be overwhelming? Absolutely. Would an occasional “thank you” be nice? Of course. But that shouldn’t be what drives your service. Jesus is the force behind your gift. Don’t forget that.

“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Mark 10:45

“God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.”  Hebrews 6:10

He hasn’t forgotten you. Keep serving. We need YOU!

Love & Blessings,

Meg