Month: August 2019

I Called in Sick Today

I Called in Sick Today

I read a meme the other day. It said, “I called in sick today. I was sick of other people.” It got me thinking. When did our annoyance with others become the norm? Look, people are weird. We are messy and hard to get along 

SEX & MARRIAGE

SEX & MARRIAGE

Physical Intimacy. It’s a part of marriage. Or, at least it should be. If you feel overwhelmed, shamed, excited, or happy about sex in your marriage, then this episode is for you. We talk about ALL THE THINGS, giggle like 12 year old boys, & 

Swat Them Away

Swat Them Away

My Peloton bike faces three giant windows. I situated the bike this way on purpose. Nature is my thing. It re-centers me and redirects my focus. I overlook our backyard: the pool, the fire pit, the rocking chairs, and a giant Crepe Myrtle. Today, as I rode, I noticed a little bird cowering by our fence.

As I watched the bird, I realized it was one of the babies out of the nest that is in the Crepe Myrtle. Every time we’ve swam the past few weeks, we’ve checked on mama bird and looked for babies. This weekend we noticed some new additions to the nest. I quickly realized today was the first day of flight school for the baby Doves.

I lost focus of the baby bird because I got distracted. There was a family of Finches sputtering about around the Crepe Myrtle and the baby bird. Anytime one of the Finches got near the baby, mama bird would swoop in and swat them away. She’s big and was not messing around.

I watched over and over again as that mama bird flew in and knocked those Finches away from her precious baby. She was relentless. It was exquisite to watch. And, I’m not gonna lie, it helped get my mind off of what I was actually doing.

But, do you know what was the most interesting thing about this whole scenario? The baby bird had no idea what its mama was doing. He was so focused on learning to fly, so terrorized and scared of his new environment, that he couldn’t see how his mama was protecting him. All he had to do was fly. She did the rest.

Hmmmmm….

That sounds a lot like us. Am I right?

As I watched her, it made me think of my own kids. We recently had to deal with a mistake one of our boys made. It was one of a million and I was exhausted. I told my husband that I was done parenting. Like, for good. For forever. Because, as I watched that mama bird swat those Finches away time-after-time, I felt like I was watching me parent.

We are all that mama bird. We are constantly swatting the bad things away from our kids. We are their first line of defense and you better believe us mamas are unstoppable when protecting our babies. We are persistent in our swatting and our kids don’t even know. They are oblivious to the continuous movement of motherhood.

Swat.

Swat.

Swat.

As I watched her and thought of my own parenting, I realized this must be how God feels. Constantly swatting the junk away from our lives. And we don’t even realize it.

Ironically, a couple of days before this mama bird encounter, I read a quote from John Piper on a friend’s Facebook page. The quote read,

“The Sovereign Lord has spared you ten thousand more losses than He has sent you. Let every moment be a thousand thanks.”

And don’t even get me started on the fact that the mama bird was a dove. It took me a second for that to process, but when it hit me that the bird I was watching was a dove, it pierced my soul.

God is always showing Himself to us. We just have to be open to see.

A couple of days ago, He allowed me to see this quote. A few days later, I experienced a challenge with a kid swatting the bad stuff away. Today, while being pushed and challenged past my limits in a workout, God reaches out to me through the one thing that connects me most to Him (nature) through a dove. And not just any dove. A mama dove in action reminding me that while I am overwhelmed and exhausted trying to swat all the bad away from my kids, God is doing the same for me. And for you.

What do you need to swat away today? You already have the power inside you. God is swatting away for you. What do you need to swat away for Him?

Love & Blessing,

Meg

A Life Surrendered

A Life Surrendered

A surrendered yes to where ever you are leading.” Ellie Holcomb Calling. Purpose. Life. These are words we contemplate to give ourselves meaning. We need to matter; have an impact on this planet greater than ourselves. We long to have purpose. But man, that can 

Live Messy Podcast

Live Messy Podcast

SUBSCRIBE HERE Apple Podcast Spotify Stitcher Anchor Whose the emotional one in your marriage? Who do you turn to for emotional support? Today, we talk about all the feels. Listen in and and find out how emotions can build a bridge of intimacy in marriage instead 

The Justice Idol

The Justice Idol

I am a rule follower. I believe that if you don’t follow the rules, you deserve the consequences. I was the “you cheated” and the “you’re out because you didn’t follow the rules” kid. I am a justice seeker thru and thru. Because of this, it can be very hard for me when someone doesn’t get what they deserve. I can get worked up when people wrong others but aren’t held accountable. 

“You shall have no other gods before me.” Exodus 20:3

God just freed the Israelites from the bondage of slavery in Egypt. He was reminding them not to revert back to their old ways now that they were given new life. The Israelites struggled with idols. They had a longing for something physical to worship. These idols continuously tripped them up. 

We have an idol. Just like the Israelites, we have something that keeps tripping us up. Our idol is causing division among us. It is tearing apart friendships and families. This idol is causing us to lose sight of what is really going on. Our idol is justice.

Hop on Facebook or Twitter and you will see this idol running rampant. We are fighting for our causes so fiercely in the name of justice. We want retribution. We desire accountability. We want justice to be served to the point of annihilating relationships with the ones we love most.

I am a justice girl. I want to see all the bad guys, the offenders, the wrong-doers brought to justice. With all my heart I want this. But, I don’t want it so much that I lose my sight. Some of us are seeking justice and judgment so heavily that we have completely lost focus on what we are fighting for; our heart behind the cause. 

Justice is our idol.

When justice becomes our idol, it begins to create doubt: doubt in our world, doubt in people, and doubt in God. We forget that we live in a fallen world where justice doesn’t reign king. Sometimes justice wins. Sometimes it doesn’t. This doesn’t mean we don’t fight for it. It just means that we have perspective and remember who the true Judge is. Justice is hard to attain in a fallen society. Because of this, when justice becomes an idol and our idol doesn’t perform (just ask the Israelites how their idols served them), we become disappointed, disillusioned, and full of doubt. 

“But he’s already made it plain how to live, what to do, what God is looking for in men and women.
It’s quite simple: Do what is fair and just to your neighbor, be compassionate and loyal in your love,
And don’t take yourself too seriously-take God seriously.” Micah 6:8

Here’s what I know about justice according to Scripture. We are supposed to live justly. That means our lives exude justice. We are kind, loving, and fair even when life isn’t. We are not judgmental and ready to serve others. Instead, we are full of grace and compassion even in the places where it isn’t welcome. We are humble not thinking of ourselves more highly than others. And then, we take God seriously and fully trust him. He is a God of justice. We allow him be the judge. 

Justice is a noble cause. People need help fighting for justice. We should never stop speaking up when we see injustice. However, justice can never become our idol. Our fight can never be overrun by justice. Justice will come as long as we focus on the true Judge.

Love & Blessings,
Meg

Old Self

Old Self

Annie Downs says, “Celebrate your former self. Don’t belittle your former self.” I’m paraphrasing, but you get the gist. She says this ALL the time and I absolutely love that she does. So often, we are told to hide our pasts. Our pasts haunt and